A want and desire to discover who you are with a genuine need to incorporate those truths into your life. A sincere willingness to be intimate with yourself.
A need to find a healthy release from not only the mounting daily stresses, but also a need for help coping with moments of intense stress. Such as the stress felt with the loss of life, love, and stability.
Life is about change, every moment is an opportunity to step onto a new path. The challenge is when we become overwhelmed by the change, enveloped by the stress of change and are no longer able to fully see the light at the end of the tunnel.
An unease or fear regarding uncertainty that can begin to eat away at who we are leaving us a bundle of worry and many times feeling an absence of joy.
Intimacy & Relationships
The world we live in is a world based on intimacy with those around us, it incorporates trust, understanding, and love to create an environment that can sustain us at our core.
Dealing with the trauma of the choice made to seek out sexual, or emotional connection outside of the core relationship.
When a couples expression of sexual desire does not align with one another. This misalignment can lead to feelings of resentment, anger, and frustration. In many cases it can lead to a feeling of not being wanted or that something is wrong with the individual, because “I am not sexually desired by my partner” or “I am not good enough to fulfill my partners sexual needs”.
The emotional connections that we have are the basic necessities for our beings. When we lack emotional connection within the world a feeling of utter loneliness can consume us. Even when surrounded by the hustle and bustle of a large crowd we feel alone.
This is so much more than an expression of sexual orientation; this is the expression of gender, identity, behavior, thoughts, and feelings associated with how we communicate our sexuality to the surrounding world. We may ask questions about the world accepting our sexual beings, but the more honest question to ask is do I accept my definition of my sexuality and can I express it to the world freely.
Sexual lifestyles that can carry the stigma of going against societies norms and therefore can make us feel as though we are not accepted and that we can not fully express our sexuality out of the fear of societal backlash.
This can occur in both men and women and can be caused by emotional triggers, as well as by hormonal and physical changes in the body. Not being able to perform sexually the way we once had or the way we imagine that we should be able to can lead to anxiety around sexual and even romantic displays. This can even result in our withdrawal and isolation from peers and potential sex partners.
This is a safe place for members of LGBTQA community to come and seek understanding regarding their unique experiences within the community.
Therapy with Sunshine
I work with clients to help them reconnect with their intimate selves. I believe that relationships are the driving force to our human experience. Each relationship that we nurture or let go of impacts our lives indefinitely, in ways that we may never fully understand. It is imperative to understand that the most important relationship that we can nurture is the relationship with ourselves. When we learn to give ourselves the gift of kindness, patience, and acceptance we are more able to fully give of ourselves to others.
I work with clients to help them unravel what it means for them to accept themselves, and to accept the changes that occur as we transition through life, and in some cases through relationships. It is my greatest pleasure to witness a clients acceptance of self and to see how they grow and expand the relationships around them.
Working with intimacy and relationships often times brings up questions about sexuality and sexual expression. I work with an emphasis on sexuality. I understand that the world around us can be seen as inherently sexual, and have even had experiences where I thought that I had express my own sexuality in ways that conformed to the world around me. Finding that person who accepts you and provides a safe space to learn and talk about your self let alone your sexual self can be daunting; and in many ways can leave us feeling raw and exposed. My goal is to provide that safe space for every person I meet; a space full of acceptance and understanding; where clients are free to talk about their family, friends, passions, loves, as well as their sexuality.
“there’s nothing more intimate in life than simply being understood. And understanding someone else.” ― Brad Meltzer, The Inner Circle
“I want to love you without clutching, appreciate you without judging, join you without invading, invite you without demanding, leave you without guilt, criticize you without blaming, and help you without insulting. If I can have the same from you, then we can truly meet and enrich each other.” ― Virginia Satir
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